This post comes the day before the anniversary of a life changing event for me. I am going to focus on something a little lighter. Weight loss. Or rather- the perception in society of when weight loss is needed.
I have several friends on Facebook who have started major weight loss journeys, and are proudly proclaiming them on the site. They are trying to sell something, but they are also putting it our there to be an example. I don’t have a problem with either one of those things. But what I have a problem with is one of the women in particular. Every time she posts an old picture, she talks about how insecure she used to be, how she used to hide in pictures, how ashamed she was. I can not get behind that. Every person should find something to feel confident about. I understand wanting to better yourself, or having the desire to fit into a small size- but what kind of example are you setting for those who are double digit sizes? What are you telling them? That until they lose weight they will be miserable? I, myself, need to lose weight- but I am not miserable. I am perfectly content. I am slightly out of shape, but I absolutely love my curves. I told my husband this the other day- his response was silence. Not the best response, but again- I am happy. And seeing posts every day about how you were once miserable, until you lost weight, is not the greatest motivator. Losing weight is not the answer to true happiness. True happiness comes from yourself. Really. Take it from a girl who hobbled her way through an eating disorder, only to get really fat her Senior Year. I was happier fat than when I was bone thin. So please, post encouraging posts, but please make sure you are not saying that weight loss is the answer. It’s really not.